Its been a while since we met on this space. There’s lot that’s been going on in my life, some new happy developments and of course, some not so happy ones have been keeping me away from documenting my fashion space.
Guess what?! Past few months your fashion crazy girl was on a roller coaster of another kind; most of the time went by in Track pants and tees; balancing books and backbends; and trying to calm and station them fashionholic; place-hopping nerves… for way too long. But it was a necessary satiety for the hunger of the body, mind and soul.
Won’t lie, some time went in philosophising; rethinking and procrastinating too but i’m back now with a long overdue fashion edit that i created some time ago that had gotten lost in the multitude of data storage, but now that i have it retrieved; its a fashion story i must weave.
The biggest trend 2018 saw was the re-inventing of the timeless Classic… The Magnanimous Saree; the second name of beauty and grace. A masterpiece drape that embraces a woman like no other.
While this garment was re-invented and re-styled in many ways on the ramp and wardrobes of Fashion icons; celebrities and super models from some years now. The contemporary trend saw itself being embraced; welcomed; and adopted by women from every household; age-group and field, nationwide in 2018.
It was almost as if, fashion lovers were hit by a massive wave of Saree Obsessed fashion market… while we witnessed experimentation of blouses a great deal; saree draping styles; a fusion fashion of Traditional Indian Saree with Western garments; cuts, hues and styles reached a new high.
The most amazing part of all this was the younger generation of reluctant saree wearing lasses who dabbled in this garment rarely in weddings; that too often shunning saree for more comfortable and stylish options of lehengas; gowns; dresses etc were now supporting it crazily as the new hashtag #whatstrending fashion.
The market saw an array of newly designed; Saree-dresses; Saree gowns; Lehenga sarees; pre-stitched drapes paired with Dhoti -pants; Long kaftans; Kurtas; some digital prints and 3D embroidery flowy sarees paired with croptops; sheer blouses pallazzos; leggings and even denims, coats and boots !!!
It was almost as if traditional, elegant homebound Saree was out to experience a free, wild psychedelic world not bound by symmetry; convention or humdrum of the tried methods. It felt as if Saree paced and once again embraced the generation that thrives on Change and breaking the stereotypes.
However, the loyal lover; the ardent admirer and incessant hoarder of Saree in me was a little skeptical; even critical at first. Even though i had dabbled in experimenting with the draping styles and even ditched the traditional blouse for much trendy and comfortable and stylish options (see previous blogs & insta pics)…. i thought pairing it with another western garment and accessorising it in totally different look altogether would mar its soul and would be going a bit too far.
But then we shouldn’t be adamant without at least giving the trend a chance.After all its mass popularity in the fashion world couldn’t be denied and the way it won over the hearts and brought the Saree from “Special Occasion Only” closet to everyday “hangers” in the wardrobe.
So, Mekins too set out to style my personal Edit on this trending fashion statement!!
I have always been in awe of Indian artisans and weavers ;for they are the reservoir of great many arts; dyes; techniques; textiles and weaves, though not often given their dues in contemporary times; i often feel indebted to them in enriching my experience of Living in a country as vivid as India.
I like to source my sarees directly from the weavers but it is not always possible due to multiple reasons but in my pursuit of collecting and reviving all art forms of various Indian states on textiles in the form of sarees mostly, i’m on the look out of Indigenous ,authentic ,handicraft brands that work towards the sustainability of the art works and textiles in an organic, fashionable way.
Luckily, I stumbled upon this amazing brand “Jullaaha ” that is in all spirits what i wrote above and much more!
Go through their website and find about the amazing work they are doing in creating such artworks in Saree domain and the unconditional work they are doing with artisans by providing them more work and their dues.Cheers to more such endeavours . This is what is “fashion with Purpose!”
Hence, instead going for the contemporary printed silhouettes; i chose to go Sustainable and hand -painted in my choice of the Staple Saree-BATIK SILK .And i chose to go extreme and Style it with a pair of Denims and an aztec striped print mul mul Beach Halter top !
I wanted to see for myself how i would feel and carry the style on me and then make a call on the trending fashion.
The Saree i received was an absolute delight and its traditional best.. a soft silk, navy blue base and reddish maroon hand-painted batik prints on the border and pallu. Very light weight and super comfortable; easy to carry and style and drape in an experimental fashion.
I chose a broad black belt for highlighting the contemporary styling on the midriff and keeping the saree well-placed; and wore black Pumps with glass heels from Metro Shoes. I settled for a very stylish yet ethnic looking metal box clutch to seal the look.
I did my own makeup and hair for the shoot and chose to go no kajal for the eyes and coloured lids and definitely bold and grunge on the lips. I accessorised with Beaded earrings with a picture of iconic Rekha on them courtesy KraftedWithHappiness .
Also, i Braided my usual curls in a thick, stylish side braid and was ready to shoot.
It took us a couple of hours to complete what we were set out to but i felt completely at ease in carrying this denim -Styled saree; needless to say I FELL IN LOVE with this Indo -western statement.
Now I know why the rage! And in a way i feel, it does bridge the gap and brings the younger generation more into Sarees as they can carry it hassle free and blend it into their untameable and free spirited, uber style of the ongoing Time!
So, for me this Trend is for keeps and would continue to be vogue in coming time as well.
So, Happy Draping the Six Yards Of Magic into the drama of your choice!! Most fashionable way.
Did you like this kind of fusion styling? Would you ever try it? Please share your opinions in the comment box below.
The morning was brimming with excitement, i was eager to dress up and look beautiful, for, after all i was meeting my long lost dearest friend, after so many years. Re checked myself in the mirror, “hmm not bad, not bad at all”!, and rushed out of the door.
There she was coming my way, I Literally ran towards her to give her a big bear hug.
She greeted me! “Hi sweetheart, long time huh! YOU LOOK SO DIFFERENT, HAVE YOU GAINED WEIGHT?!”
Another day, at an all girl’s brunch date!
While pulling each others legs, in jest, one of them asked her, “Hey till how long you want to fly like a free bird?!, High Time you grow your nest?!”.
She visits her friend over tea. Her friend’s Mom-in-law speaks!
“These modern girls i tell you, they just want to enjoy life, no sense of responsibility!. One becomes the kind of company one keeps!”.
I’m all excited and decked up for my cousin’s wedding, eager to meet my relations. There one of the aunts’ in our relation catches hold of me and says, “Your in-laws are too gentle to tell you this.” “If next time i don’t hear any good news, you will have it from me”.
At one of the official family get-together. One lady with a toddler in arms and a little girl next to her, trying to make a polite conversation with me, says “Hi! How many years you guys have been married?, No plans of kids yet?!”. “No no…, you must plan, else, what is the joy of living?!”.
You must be wondering as to why these abrupt, sentences; conversations. As to where am i leading or have i lost it?!
Some of you might even have guessed the topic too.
Well, well, well… These are some of the opening lines, greetings or well-being addresses that me and many Women like me hear, witness or bear on a day to-day basis.
Sometimes in the form of care; sometimes rightful advice; sometimes, jest or taunt and yet other times, out of mere curiosity or sheer boredom.
Today’s blog post is yet another one of heart ramblings but definitely not insignificant.
In a World full of civility, relationships, cordiality, certain expectations in regard to treating a fellow human being vis a vis his personal life is becoming a rarity of sorts.
If i may request you to remember how in a world where we were mere children… the art or i rather call mannerisms of greetings were like?!
We were brought up in such a way that it was pertinent to be careful not to hurt anyone’s sentiments by way of action or words.
We were taught and and taught rather well, never to cross the line of polite concern or getting too personal.
I thought we had learnt well.
But i’m appalled, rather aghast to see the stark shift in progressive society of ours. In terms of everything, i believe and understand, we have come a long way. But in terms of mannerisms, if i talk as such, i think now, that we were better off before.
I’m neither a doctor nor a science expert…, so this blog post does not document my medical struggles, victories or failures… But the post rather talks about the battles of the Emotional nature, more so, of Societal Judgements.
And yes, I call myself a Survivor, a Warrior; at least in my eyes and i dare to represent a section of Men and Women in this regard.
Dealing with a medical condition of your loved ones or your own, is on its own a tough period to go through physically, financially and emotionally… But on top if it.. If one faces direct or indirect judgements; probings; insensitive questioning; it can lead to undue duress; cause misery and may lead to mental breakdown as well. Disrupting further, the already disturbed equilibrium of a situation, family or person.
But in our society it’s sort of taken to interfere or have at least keen interest into the personal matters of closed doors.
I’m not here to familiarise you or seek sympathies by telling the gruesome details of the medical conditions or the treatments.
I’m rather here, to pen down my grievance regarding the matters of Judgement, Bias, Shaming and Insensitivity on the part of a sophisticated society, myself, and lot many fellow survivors are from.
The issue of infertility is stigmatised to a level that it either becomes a taboo to address or is hinted at in hushed tones, or taunting voices.
From a personal and long understanding of the whole dynamics of the situation of people, or couple or women, battling infertile condition, i must say its more of a Social condition.
Its not a story; mentality; belief, restricted to one community, area, faith, country or religion.
We have been brought up or conditioned in a way that says that facing difficulties in conception; inabilities to conceive naturally; having to seek medical monitoring/intervention in this regard… is a matter of shame, disgrace, a pity; a lack and talking about it openly is accepting defeat. Its something to be dealt with in hiding; behind closed doors; in secrecy.
The pressure from the kith ‘n’ kins, the so called inner circle of love looms the largest; the topic is either completely ignored; advised to be kept underwraps or only hinted provocatively. So much so that humans, couples, specially women facing it, start alienating; feel the ostracism. So much so that it becomes a reason for marital discord, battles with the familial hierarchies, family rejections, rights, often leading to divorces and forced separations.
From there starts, the social distancing; anti-social behaviour so much so that i have seen my fellow warriors ending up in hiding and depression.
I’m not trying to give this issue a Feminist turn. But from where i stand i do honestly feel that the BLAME GAME is real and traumatic for Women.
We the infertility survivors really do feel like a minority within a minority at times!
The struggle is real, needs strength and grit to not fall prey to the feeling of a lack.
The irony is that the pain is more emotionally felt, rather than physical, despite the painful procedures! And more so, because strangely, the Insensitivity comes largely from our own Gender.
Our mothers and daughters of this powerful Avatar of a Woman; Women who have borne witness to the worst prejudices; women who have stood against the wrath of times and continues to battle for their rights till today; women who bear testimony to all that could be harsh, brutal and cruel. Its strange that the ones who can be a source of power to the fellow sisters, often tend to shun them and make them feel lacking or to be blamed!!
In the name of society, tradition, culture, family name, lineage, their behaviour often sums up to be discriminating, insulting and biased.
Why is it that if ever a question in this regard is asked, its only to a Woman? Why is it that only a woman falls prey to prying eyes, or becomes the topic of a discussion or is given all sorts of advises; admonishing and scathing remarks?
I don’t say this from a biased heart towards Male gender. I speak only from my experiences in particular and of my fellow couples whom i have spoken to, at great lengths. Of Course, in muted tones, behind closed doors.
MY WAITING ROOM INTERACTIONS!
Over the years i have often found myself Waiting!
For most part of any bright, cheerful day!
Waiting in crowded corridors with empty hopes; cold waiting rooms of strict silenced clinics! Bare feet but not bare feels! Sometimes alone, sometimes with your spouse but mostly lost in the crowd. Somedays its like a swarm of women, all sorts, shapes, looks, mind yet all of them having same look in their eyes! Mostly of guarded eyes, silenced lips and open ears.
But then there are some bored to death, always chatty, the ones the whole room can’t ignore even if they wish to kinds’, like me… foolishly looking all happy, excited and hopeful in the dingy waiting room.
I forged friendships out of long periods of waiting, or maybe the similar situations helped… And they spoke and spoke their hearts out.
I found many out of us women have lacked safe places to all their stories and to construct a positive meaning about their autobiographical narrative within their marriages, families friendships, workspace etc. Hence they all turn inward.
Sometimes overwhelmed by their situation –Defeated;
Sometimes accepting it as a negative fate –Resigned;
or Ignoring it and assuming an unrelated identity –Denying.
But all of us have questions, tons of them.!! Maybe to the society we live in.
First of all, to have a child or not is the sole and complete prerogative of a couple.
And in circumstances leading to infertility, the future decisions solely theirs.
Being treated for Infertility is like being treated for any other medical conditions say, diabetes, jaundice or something else… then Why the Stigma?! Why the silence? Why the Shame?!
From time to time i have myself revisited many stages of my own understanding and interpretation of fertility and have reconstructed my narrative of WHO I AM! in this light.
I do have the capacity to see myself from a distance and be an impartial observer.
During the initial phase of knowledge and acknowledging of this situation; then the choice of seeking treatments; the decisions undergoing procedures or not; the success and failures of it. In all this and much more…, I have felt the presence of dark depressive forces of self doubts, alienations, mood swings, hiding into a shell all around me. But thank heavens, never overpowering me. Because i knew My Worth. I had the confidence to love myself no matter what. I had the strength of character to see my beauty. And also i had a safe heaven, my inner circle of love, and my partner to share my experiences with. And hence, my narrative is just the way it ought to be.
‘Am i just my Womb?!’ Will all that is to me becomes insignificant in front of this one sudden alteration in my persona??
Is child bearing an only ultimate yardstick to a successful matrimony?
Motherhood, the greatest joy of Womanhood is restricted only to biological chords?
Can it not manifest itself amongst the ties of heart?
What good or what greatness is it of then, if not unconditional?
Such questions and many more…
Coming back to me, i am perennially a happy go lucky; eternally hopeful; hopeless romantic; highly expressive human. I don’t get dettered much or rather easily by the circumstantial change within or without. The survival instinct is strong and hence, the urge to keep going Happily in life everafter.
Opinions of others do hurt sometimes but don’t matter at all. What rather affects is the distress, pain caused by my situation to my loved ones.
So when people judge the course of my life, my decisions, my lifestyle or what not, i generally ignore big time. But when it starts affecting my loved ones, i sit upright and answer back.
Remember people, you are not in my shoes, hence you don’t get to decide. Period!!
There is so much more to me than just one condition. There is so much to be done in life and so much to be grateful about. I carry my heart on my sleeves and intend to do so all my life. I have been blessed to have a friend for a partner who shares the same zest for life as me. Our decisions have been mutual and struggles too. And what lies in future too shall find us in togetherness ever so more.
But then there are my fellow sisters and brothers who are battling severe distress, loneliness and agony in their lives. So the world around us that is the so called educated society of sophistication (not considering the scenario of superstitious/remote thought process here at least), we need to buckle up on sensitivity and kindness. We need to create an atmosphere of an open dialogue. There should be acceptance from both ends. The taboos and shame should be dispelled. The onus of mental and emotional well being lies with each one of us. If we would talk openly and not indirectly, in remarks, a better understanding would prevail. And this would reduce anxiety and depression amongst the already suffering.
Also, suffering from a medical condition does not yearn for sympathy but that also does not mean that life should stop for the one… It should not be a Taboo… The life goes on, and if that one person enjoys life with zest and happiness and has accepted or moved on, no one has the right to Judge… No one deserves to be Judged for Trying to have a happy life, for dreaming further. Or on the basis of their decisions.
If you cannot understand it, at least do not dare condemn.!!
This blog post will be an abrupt end or rather one without an end, for my experiences won’t end here definitely. It’s going to be a long journey and a long ending one. But i’m hopeful the change in the attitudes and sensitivity will occur, if not radically then gradually.
If even one person reading this blog post will gain an insight and a better understanding into the emotional nature of the situation and will exhibit some sensitivity, i shall feel all this worthwhile.
I am a learner! I seek ! I seek and i observe and i imbibe. I learn better from characters and personas, than life in general. They have a way of leaving their imprints on my heart more than any lessons ever learnt.
Hence, i’m constantly seeking Inspiration. Inspiration from Men, Women and Children around me. For i truly believe, anyone, really anyone can suddenly appear on the canvas of your life and can be the inspiration for you to draw; whatever it is you are meant to.
Well, i had been mulling since long to introduce you to few people that have been a constant source of learning for me, they have in many aspects at some or the other way touched my life at some given point.
The list is almost endless!
But as I saw the day 8th March which we all celebrate as “International Women’s Day“approaching .I thought no more procrastinating,let’s do it!
Each and every passing day as i hold my pen tight and loosen out my emotions; i experience things like never before. I am beginning to understand and value every emotion, every persona much lucidly and vividly. I get lost into the depth of my soul only to find myself much more!
I used to think and feel a lot but i have become a lot more accepting of my feelings and i’m conveying them way lot more than ever before.
So,Yes ! Now is the right time for me to convey and value what each of these WOMEN have taught me and inspired me by truly being themselves and truly believing in themselves.
This time I introduce you to four beautiful Women in my life, who may not have started any feminist movements; nor are their names to be reckoned Worldwide; yet they are Every bit of The Unsung HEROES of my life and have inspired me to be Truly, Madly, Myself!
So, This Women’s Day i make a dedication to them and many more Women for being themselvesin the knitty gritty, mundane everyday lives and yet having a “VOICE“; having the power and the sensibilities of living their lives with panache and fighting their own little battles in ways best known to them; They are Survivors; they are Winners; they are Inspirers. They have fallen many times only to get up and move on.Not only do they stand for themselves, they are a Sisterhood; they have stood for anyone and everyone they believed in; pulling up each other all along the ways of life; teaching and imparting; knowingly or unknowingly!
I salute my Women Heroes; for teaching me to Be the Voice for Self and for anyone who needs; for I marvel at their SMILES ALONG WITH THEIR SCARS; For they carry it like WARRIOR MARKS!!
For you don’t need a greater issue to stand up for; or for a World War battle to be known; or to propagate a cause; to be a Hero.
By Calling them a hero, I do not mean to resort to flattery of any sort; nor do i wish to worship and idolize them. They are various things in this little life and play many roles of a Mother; Daughter; Wife; Career woman; homemaker and what not. Some roles come easy to them and some not so easy. To err is human! They are not Devi’s but Everybit as Real and As Human as one can be; with all the attributes good; bad or better and we are not here to judge or pass verdicts! (As it is i don’t get what is on with our world; we jump at every oppurtunity to put any being into brackets; brackets of so called “saints”, or “Evils”. Why can’t we be simply human and appreciate whatever good we see in others).
We are here to celebrate their stories and in any which way they have touched my life and many others.
So, Ladies and gentlemen I bring to you my first Hero.
Her name is Pradnya Shende.
I met her around four years ago and ever since she has been an integral part of me now. A marathi girl from a small village somewhere near, Nagpur (Maharashtra), a very bright, intelligent and an ever smiling, good looking girl. She had something in her that caught my attention first…. like me, she was a dreamer, and always found reasons to be happy.
Well, we met on my second day in Karanja, Mumbai, we had shifted our house a day ago and i was sitting confused amidst tons of packed luggage, when my doorbell rang. Wondering who could it be, as I didn’t know a soul there, i opened the door and saw this beautiful tall girl of around 22/23 years of age ; impeccably dressed, and a smiling face. She had sad eyes though. I was literally taken aback, when she asked if i was looking for a domestic help. She said she needed the servant quarters urgently. There was an honesty in her smile and pain in her eyes. I at once said yes! The very next day Pradnya came to stay with us along with her little son and ailing husband.
She took care of my household and we became friends. Soon, she was my companion everywhere and her little son Krishna became my playmate and my student.
Pradnya was a 12th class dropout, financial circumstances at her home led her to leave education so that her brother could study and she gave in to get married at the age of 19! A bigger farmers home and little better off, she sought happiness in the fact that she will pursue her studies soon and support her parents too. Soon, her dreams took back seat and the immediate problems took centre stage. Her doting husband was an addict of gambling and alcohol and was wasting away all that the family had. There were debts and tensions amidst the pressure to conceive. And one day her husband had a facial paralysis attack. Suddenly, how a little girl who loved gorging on pani-puri’s, reading books and dreamt of a job, had her world, turned all topsy turvy.
She took a decision, against everyone’s will and brought her husband away from all easy and ill habits; to Mumbai. Soon she realized, life was much more difficult than she had fathomed. She once again gave up her education dream for the time being and came for a shelter to work in defence colony as a domestic help. She had to earn enough to help her husband recover and rehabilitate and any other job was out of question for the time being. Always busy in studies, she had never taken much interest in household chores but now took care of four homes in a day.
Her husband recovered and swore to lead a healthy life; took on a small job; life felt back on track and then her son was born. But happiness was short-lived for them and once again, she found herself from doors to doors when her husband had a massive heart attack. She had to keep her home afloat and her husband alive .
I offered help, she said, “didi get me more work if you want to help“. I at, that time was designing lot of fancy clothes for an upcoming wedding at home and noticed her interest and got to know she could stitch some basics. I enrolled her in a stitching class and brought her work from anywhere i could. I would buy tons of fabric, give her the designs, make her redo the work wherever she erred but she persevered and learnt and learnt. Her life was a waking work station, as she juggled between working as house help, her son, hospital and stitching; somewhere i saw the dreamy girl turn into a Woman of the world. But her smile never ceased her.
And one day it all came to a grinding halt! A wrong operation at a government hospital, her husband couldn’t survive. Here, I had brought books for her 12th class exams and she was being taken by her in laws to her village and to be remarried to her unemployed brother-in-law. I thought we both had almost given up on our dreams of a better life for her. One night i received her call, “Didi can me and Krishna come back? His final exams are approaching. And i have my stitching test too?” I was in tears and over joyed.
She came back trying to stitch her life back. Everyday the struggle to live in the same room with her hùsband’s memory; defying all decisions of remarriage; taking all the blames of a son lost; I saw her strength, determination let large. Breaking down or crying doesn’t mean you have surrendered, rather it cleanses you and rids you of your burdens and firms your to stand up and keep going.
Today, Pradnya is an independent seamstress, continues to work as househelp too, she’s saving money to do a designing course; her son is a well brought up scholarship student studying in Kendriya Vidyalay and a Karate enthusiast and yes, She’s appearing for her twelfth class exams , supports her old in-laws and her parents. And that smile is back. SHE IS EVERY BIT MY UNSUNG HERO! She taught me that how when adversity falls, you got to survive; how no work is small or big and how dreams even though sometimes need to be put on hold, one should not stop working towards them; she taught me there is no time to play the victim if you have decided to be a Warrior and HOW SHE WAS COMPLETE EVEN WITHOUT ANY MAN! SHE IS THE WOMAN OF HER HOME! She has taught me to SMILE through adversity and this too shall pass.
MY SECOND HERO WHO INSPIRED AND TOUCHED MY LIFE is RITI JAMWAL
We are what they say, “Soul Sisters ” are!
We are so Different from each Other! An exact opposite of each other!
Yet one fine day during our Plus two phase, our souls found each other.
I’m a dreamy, nerdy, full of myself; incessant chatterbox; fashionable diva; go getter; extremely social, energy explosive kind of girl who has an opinion about everything in this world. I love to plan and dream about, sometimes worry too, about future.
And She is this quiet, observant, patient; tomboyish; headstrong; rough-tough girl with her mood swings and a perfect laid back approach to life; she would always listen to her heart and gave a shit about what the world thought of her. She loved to go out, travel and have fun with friends; laughter, food and cooking are her life binge….., books repel her and outdoors are her love. She took one day at a time and never planned her life.
I wonder what struck a chord then! We never have ever professed best friend love notes; neither we are those PDA, HUGGING, KISSING TYPE GIRLFRIENDS! We are more of SISTERS, taking each other for granted, as to always have each other’s back.
Our bond grew manifolds when Once, during our twelfth board exams My Mom and my Brother met with a major accident. It was the toughest time for me as me being a very Serious student ,was not in the right frame of mind and neither was my home conducive to study at that time. More so, my both pillars from whom i drew strength were so badly wounded and i was scared for them. She, at once came home with her mom and bhai and they insisted to take me along with them to stay till exams. I had never stayed with anyone like this before,i was apprehensive but this was the best decision we made. From then on started the ritual of group studies and always staying together , either at hers or mine place. And boy , am i glad!!
One another hilarious incident that comes to my mind … it was again the time for exams , me being me; very serious about time table and syllabus and scoring ;and Riti being her laid -back chilled out self. We had major issues while prepping…. i would wake up whole night and finish studies and revisions and would force her to do so ,and She, on the other hand, would not compromise her sleep for the World ,let alone a petty exam!!She would lie down in my lap , book on her face and would make me recite lines or read points ,pretending to listen, while all the while she would be in lala land taking a cat nap!!!
We have a long standing friendship; with obviously, its ups and downs. I have not liked some of her life choices and she mine! But that’s perfectly alright! We were never together to please each other but an unsigned pact of supporting each other remains…., but hilariously we have never made up after a fight or an argument😛; we take each other so much for granted that we know for a fact, we’ll be behaving normally on the next call!
Once, in examination hall ,she finished her exam almost half an early and went outside the hall to enjoy ; i was the one who was ambitious of the two and and would keep on writing till the last minute ,the whole time in my heart i kept on wondering, what happened to Riti! Upon enquiry i found out she ,out of sheer laziness ,had not bothered to check the other side of question paper and had left an entire set of question!!But she laughed and laughed and i as always, worried for her!
This has become one of the most famous incidents among us all!She was carefree,relaxed ;chilled out and happy go lucky but always scored well and did so well for herself in life! She taught me to take it easy in life!What’s yours,no one can take it away from you!
We both have been two Strongly Opinionated Women but it was never necessary to agree on everything, we understand each other’s space and respect each other’s viewpoints.
We have had some amazing years of fun, laughter & carefree youth; those were the times everything was about Friendship and having a great time. But also, of understanding life and relations in a better perspective. Together, we have seen a lot! Life changed and we girls blossomed into Strong Independent Women with a world of our own…., yet we stand by each other or, atleast know we are there anytime and everytime to fall back on, if the need be.
I so fondly remembered the times when we were inseperables
I have a perennial love for literature and She wanted to join Belt forces. And boy! She did what she set her heart on; with her fair share of hurdles and obstacles.
She was posted far away from home but never far away enough from my life.
I remember how sudden untimely demise of her father had brought our world upside down, and how devastated everyone at home was and there She was, miles away from us in those eastern hills; coping with the news and planning a return home!
She came home and held the fort like a tigress, calming all of us down! I remember she consoled and wiped my tears instead! And till date i marvel at her strength, poise and calmness. She is Brave and She’s Strong. And in all of this, she never stopped living her life to its fullest. I’m not saying she’s perfect nor any of us is or born to be! But She Inspires!
While serving the nation, She found love in another Braveheart of our country. They married and settled down only to realise, its never really settling down with both being posted at different corners of the country.
With the birth of her daughter Arshia, A mother was born! A side of her persona which i could never fathom before, surfaced! A need to nurture and Motherhood overpowered the soldier woman in her. And i guess the time was right but the decision, definitely not easy. Yet again I witnessed a Resolve. A resolve to give up everything to raise her daughter and be a Home maker, the toughest job in the world. I can well understand the dilemmas of a mind & heart when it comes to making choices in life, as i too have rocked in the same boat. But Once, decided We move ahead smiling, never to look back and regret.
She showed me another side of Today’s Dynamic, independent powerful Woman! A warrior and a nurturer! A woman who can evolve and shape up to be whoever, her life needs her to be. That there is not a particular time for dreaming; that we can move on from one dream to another; that its never too late to change the course of life; that its okay to keep on treading new paths to try different roles; that its okay to not fit into stereotypes types or competitions, To be A woman After one’s ❤ Heart.
That life is not a Race, nor do we have to prove ourselves to anyone. We should just know Who We Are! And Be Comfortable in our Being! That life can be lived at its Best, with a laid back approach.
She’s a proud mama of a proud daughter with a Strong Head and StrongerVoice; her home and life is every bit a reflection of her and She keeps experimenting with amazing recipes and offlate, giving a lot of time to her admirable Art work of tribal paintings and what not and maybe, acting little girly and playing dress up after all! Thank Lords!
Jokes Apart! I love her for Being herself and never surrendering to the dictats of the societal pressure to look best; to follow fashion trends; or to follow all girly things that didn’t fancy her. The tomboyish look might have mellowed down on the outside but on the Inside She’s every bit of the tom boy rebel she once was! And yes she’s my Unsung Hero!
Let Me introduce you to my third Hero for today, Our’s is a new found relationship,a journey that has just begun but already i have so much respect and Awe when i look at her!
Her Name is Shalu kisan Rao Khandekar, and she chose to keep her father’s Sirname!
“Shalu Didi” as i fondly call her, She came to stay with me as a house caretaker some six months ago, even though we shifted houses, she came along with me, along with her son and daughter!
A tall, sturdy Woman with a graceful, mature and happy face. Although she’s almost nearby my age, but her demeanour exhibits a strong strength of character and the fact she has seen a lot! It feels a lifetime has passed by when she reminiscizes but in the present She laughs and and laughs and acts like a kid younger than her children.
The first day she came looking for work and i at once knew, she will be part of my life for coming years. And as we sat for our evening tea together, it felt as if i knew her from long before.
Her’s is a sordid tale of gruesome Abuse, molestation, poverty and domestic violence. Poverty stricken parents married her off at 18 and she was brought beaten mercilessly to work as a house maid by her alcoholic husband. She kept on working and kept on taking the abuse till the time her children came into being and for a time, for them. She held on till the time her husband attempted to murder her child and throw her from top floor of a building and tried kidnapping her the other time. Such was her own condition that if she had tolerated a bit more she would have succumbed to the wounds of body and agony of her heart and scars of her psyche.
She Decided!TO CHANGE HER DESTINY ! …TO BE THE CHANGE!
Coming from that conservative strata of society, she was mentally, emotionally rebuked, accuse, disowned and what not but she stood her ground! She divorced her husband and filed a case too. Of course, some really good people helped her, gave her work, shelter, support and much needed guidance. Single handedly, she raised her children, gave them good education and good life. Ofcourse, from time to time she faced and still is facing many hardships…., she’s over worked and finances are still low. Men still try to pounce like vultures upon seeing a single woman; she has been lectured often on societal morals; and how a single woman cannot live her life and be safe. She has declined some decent offers of matrimony and defying all odds has Chosen To Live Her Life Full Circle, Just The Way She Wants!! PEACEFUL, INDEPENDENT AND HAPPY!
She says she’s really proud of her one decision that day and now knows, what living a life really means! She says She has Tasted freedom! It tastes like Laughter! She’s A Survivor! She’s A Warrior Queen!
Her story is like a million others’ in our country or worldwide. Yet what inspires me is not how she stood up, but how she lives her life of dignity now!! I always hear sounds of giggles and uproarious laughter from their room. She and her children are so in tune with each other, so transparent and so close; such enthusiastic life lovers!! I am Amazed!!
I feel as if her children without understanding much at that point still understood her completely, as if they lived every moment through her pains and her crises! They are so kiddish and yet so mature; they live like three siblings together and “Shalu didi”, never feels the need of a companion. The kids always goof around and make her laugh as if they are silently making up for all the tears she has ever shed. She Inspires!! They Inspire!!
I for the first time have realised in life how inspite of having so little you can have all. How no worry is bigger than a sound sleep and Hope of a new Dawn! How one can never have enough of material wants but can have all the happiness of the World!!
How its Best to not take Life too seriously! ! And No tension in the world is worth giving up your sleep or peace for!
That however, less you have on your plate, sharing fills you up! And the less you have, the bigger your Heart becomes!
I’m loving staying with this extended family of mine and learning from them HOW TO LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME!!!! AND NO PROBLEM IS BIGGER THAN YOUR FAITH! If my problem seems bigger to me, i should look around and say a PRAYER of THANKS!! Yes, She’s my Unsung Hero!
And Now I talk About My Ultimate Inspiration, for whom Word’s fall short and i can go on and on for another lifetime! Some say, I am her mirror reflection and i would like to believe that too!!
But i prefer calling myself Her Shadow, forever trying to walk on the life imprints she leaves, that are forever etched in my psyche and can be seen in my persona as well!!
Yes SHE’s My Mother, i call her MOM ! And Yes! She’s MY UNSUNG HERO!
And She INSPIRES ! By Simply Being SHE!
Born in a reasonably affluent household to a Warrior, Visionary Father and a saintly Mother; She shared her childhood with four other siblings. Being the second Child, she was always the one who was given duties and responsibilities, which she was always keen to fulfill. She had a penchant for taking on all the hard-works; all the duties; all the responsibilities on her shoulders; her’s and of other’s; Selflessly and tirelessly, till date.
A Post Graduate in History, an able NCC Certified Cadet; She chose to be a Police Officer at a time when it was a rarity. She chose a life of discipline, duties and dedication. And Till date is respected for her honest and devoted service to her State. A Woman in the field dominated by gender – Bias and inequality which was even otherwise, very much prevalent in society at those times. IT was not an easy feat to earn the respect and make a mark when you are thought to be of a weaker gender and discriminated against.
She stood her fort and held her ground against all corrupt malpractices that have seeped in the force. She refused to be a part of any nexus and had to undergo a lot of troubled times in her career and life in general. But all this and more, never deterred her from her vision and morals.
Personal life too moved alongside and she became the wife of an Army Officer; life doesn’t surely seemed to be easy for her. Two people from completely different belt forces set out to create a life which was by all means, not an easy feat. Creating a World ensured every bit of sacrifice from both the life partners.
Many a decision making moments came when she literally, almost, gave up on her dreams of Being a strong, independent Woman in Uniform…, but something in her, and rightfully so, now i feel…. did not let her deter and let go off her aspirations and dreams!
Motherhood came and so, the balancing of both the worlds. She was everywhere, she was needed, never once complaining. Always overworked and busy but, always smiling and determined. I never saw her having a life apart from her family, work and responsibilities and often shouted at her for taking too much load. But i guess, this is the only way she knows how to live life…. She’s a Giver! Of comfort, love and what not and She takes your miseries, worries and responsibility. I must commend my father who supported her in living the life she chose! She’s a Survivor! She survived many things in life! She’s a Warrior! For she has braved many a storms in our lives whether, accidents, controversies, job hazards, deaths in the family and what not! SHE’s One Brave Woman!
But She raised us well! She’s one tigress that raised her cubs strong. We were treated like equals and we could talk anything and share everything under sun with both of our parents. She instilled her values and her morals well in us but let us be free to choose our beliefs.Me and my brother are not the kind of kids or youngsters who could speak out what we needed but while we would be asleep , she would keep a decent amount in our pockets without us ,having to ask ; this happens till date for everything,all our needs our catered to without ever a mention.In our household we were never criticised or forced opinions on ;we were only advised and the final decision would always be ours.But that doesn’t mean we were pampered or spoilt kids ,we had our own discipline to follow. Even in college or university ,a tender age for a girl ,she kept a watchful eye to safeguard me from any trouble but i always had liberty to choose my friends without any gender-bias and they were always welcome in my home. She had immense trust and faith in me;and i valued that and shared everything with her.
Our father being posted far away most of the times; our household and all family relations depended on her! She was the constant support system of even her parents!
She’s Honour and honesty incarnate! I have never met a person who has not praised her and reminded me that i’m lucky to be born out of her. A well read woman and with so many feathers in her cap, she’s an epitome of humility, humbleness and grace incarnate! But SHE SURE KNOWS WHERE TO VOICEOUT AND STANDS BY HER DECISIONS !!
She has loved endlessly and lives graciously. She has done so much for so many whether financially, morally or emotionally that she herself never remembers and upon asking, tells me that She has received this virtue as a legacy from her mother and She passes it on to me. I hope to live by it as honestly as i can .
Sometimes though I can’t understand her gregariousness!! Inspite of knowing everything, inspite of getting what others full of malice, or ill-will do, She chooses to ignore, to accept or, even be fooled by things and people. She sits like a mute spectator and allows shallow people to teach her ways of life. Upon fighting about this, She answers, that She chooses relations over Ego.!!
She’s happily enjoying a retired life of togetherness with my father and is like a typical Mom at home, praying and till date fulfilling the needs of her children and relations.But her zest for never waste any moment and to be forever in pursuit of learning makes her learn; learning new things and Adapting with the changing times; she reads a lot; she learnt driving fully and is a net savvy proud Mom who hobnobs on social media with the likes of her daughter and daughter in-law.
But one thing remains the same;she refuses to change her simplicity and has never yielded to fancy , fashionable world of make belief. She’s never bothered about her looks or what she wears and how people perceive her ,rather She speaks out straight from the heart ,without any frills and believes in her actions!
SHE STILL IS THE WIND BENEATH MY WINGS!! And fans and feeds all my new passions and dreams with the same enthusiasm as when i used to be in nursery!!
SHE IS AND WILL ALWAYS BE THE FIRST HAND OF SUPPORT TO ANYTHING I WISH TO PURSUE ANYTIME IN LIFE!
For She taught me to dream; To make my own decisions in life;To be in competition to only Self; That not every step forward is Success and that its okay to not be good in everything BUT BE GOOD IN LIFE!
I SMILE AND SURVIVE ALL THE BATTLES OF MY LIFE! Coz I HAVE HER !!
I’m Proud to be my Parents Child and grateful that every step of my life has been my Choice; That I have A VOICE, that get’s heard and that every step I have taken in my Life Has been my own….., AND I LOOK BACK AT LIFE, WITH ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS AT ALL!!
That’s How WOMEN Shapes up life of others…. BY LIVING THEIRS OF THEIR OWN ACCORD!
So, these were a few of many Women that have touched my life in some ways or other. I hope to get a chance to introduce you to others sometime soon.
All i can say is How, Whom, When do we get to honour the women or men in our lives!! Is there a measure,?! We usually get to honour someone when he or she does something as massive or great that can be reckoned by the world.
I get it ! Its not possible to honour everyone on such a higher scale but i can atleast in my own small way, the best known to me, can atleast honor some Women up close and in personal life about whom the world may never know. This is my way of saying thankyou. THANKYOU FOR BEING YOURSELVES AND TOUCHING MY LIFE THE WAY YOU DID!
I wrote about four women each so distinct and different from the other. Each of them had a story; each were beset with decisions and choices, they rose up to or against. YET THEY ALL HAD SOMETHING IN COMMON…… A VOICE, A STRONG VOICE…. that sure knows where to make itself heard. A ZEST FOR LIFE! A LIFE TO BE LIVED IN HONOUR AND ON OWN TERMS! Each had choices she made, each one had her perspective of life on which she made decisions. We can’t judge the decisions or compare the decisions of one person from the other; we all have perceptions; we all dream; we are all beset with life changing decisions and we decide to the best of our capabilities.What is best for me, may not be for you. But we need to know that, know that well. And of all, atleast we women should not judge each other! For we don’t know what all it takes to be a woman you see. But We Must Remember, Every time we fall, We need to rise up from the ashes like a Phoenix and become a Warrior Queen , the Hero of our own Destiny!
Ending on a Happy Note of Wishing Each one of You “A Happy WOMANHOOD“!! Keep inspiring, be in love with who you Are!!
Its a well known saying that “You are never completely dressed till the time you wear your FRAGRANCE”.
I Do Believe truly that’ Your Fragrance should linger on long enough even after you are gone.’ Our fragrance, like every thing else on the outside , is also a reflection of who we are as a person. Its like a scented message of your persona, a liquid emotion, more so, like your signature style.
A Fragrance is the first thing that reaches out and spreads your aura after of course, 👄Smile. It transcends the other, to a dream like happy state, its like a metaphor for communicating emotions, that can be felt.
Well Cmon, its a fact that who doesn’t love to communicate with a person who smells nice!! And we do become the cringy-nosed people when we spot Body Odour!! Yikes!
So Folks! It was pertinent for me to bring some product for my beloved readers in this regard. I mean how could i not! A good and genuine fragrance is the utmost essential weapon in the most well-dressed Woman’s armory. 😉Wink! 😉Wink! AND Definitely YOU 👨🎨Men out there its equally important for you as well as we 💁women prefer to be in the company of Gentlemen who smell nice Ahem!Ahem!😜
Its very important that a fragrance matches our senses, our spirit and our persona to call it our very own. Hence, we can’t depend on gas-filled deodorants, sprays etc to call it our personal fragrance. For that we need a unique, trusted and long staying PERFUME.
SO, After much search and thought i bring to you on my Blog A Perfume Brand named ‘PERFUME BOOTH’ a new, yet a trusted and very renowned brand in our Indian market. They have curated a wide range of international fragrances both for Men and Women, in the form of perfumes and that too at an unimaginable price range.
I See a lot of us opting out and depending totally on deodorant and sprays for our day today fragrance needs and i feel the major reason so is their affordability. BUT deo’s, sprays don’t have the longevity and aren’t in the purest forms and often darken the skin and are harsh.
PERFUME BOOTH, as a brand has understood this fact that perfumes are associated with an ‘expensive’ purchase.Hence,they have managed to eliminate the various steps in marketing and distributing a perfume and have brought premium quality fragrances from all over the world directly to the customers.
This brand offers about more than 40 products to choose from for both the genders. Their product range is divided mainly in two packaging categories:
PERFUME SELFIE some of the names of products are, lurve; sophistique; teaze; cazanova etc
100 ml Perfume Bottles namely, Creation Noir; Presidente; Classic Man; Active Woman; True Reflections etc.
The product that i have been sent for Review is a PERFUME SELFIE package box named LURVE.
Its a pack of Women Perfume comprising of 7 International perfume sticks, a Perfume Selfie Case and along with it a Gift Voucher of Rs 501.!!!😍
👉SO, Here’s my review of this Perfume Selfie BOX.
I found this Perfume Selfie Box concept to be a unique and one of its kind concept. In this box you get to try out 7️⃣different mini fragrances from 7️⃣different brands and later we can always pick up a bottle of your choice.
✅PACKAGING : This Perfume Selfie box LURVEhas a very impressive and luring packaging. Its a cylindrical shaped box covered with a very attractive and tantalizing colour paper sheet in red and the product name name hologrammed on it. On the inside, it has a thermo case in which all the 7 black coloured perfume sticks and the red selfie case beautifully stands in a small circle. Along with it, a rounded series of placards, describing names of all the 7 perfume sticks and a gift voucher card is also inside the box.
Packaging is a very formative step in introducing a product to the consumer market and how impact fully its done speaks volumes about the dedication, sincerity and ambition of the brand and also, winning the hearts of its customers. I LOVED their packaging game on point.
✅QUANTITY : Each of the 7 perfume selfie sticks contains 4ml of product i:e, 7×4 ml =28ml of product. Hence, we get a good deal of product in just one box, that too of 7 different varieties to suit our mood and occasion. The product can easily last up to two months approximately.
✅PRICE RANGE: The perfume selfie box containing 7 international perfumes sticks of 4ml each,comes at a price of Rs 475/- only . Considering the wide variety, good quality and long lasting products, it surely is value for money, worth every penny and high affordability factor, a big thumbs up!!
✅PAY-OFF: The brand claims the sprays to be six times longer lasting than deodrants, having a high quality perfume oil concentration. Personally, i felt it lasted more than six hours on me.
✅TRAVEL WISE: The perfume selfie case and sticks are made of light weight, plastic unbreakable mini bottles with lock lids, so are highly travel friendly and can be carried anywhere, anytime without any damage or wastage. We can easliy pick the perfume stick for the day, put it inside the selfie stick and are good to go for the day.
✅QUALITY: All the perfumes availed to us in this box are from 7 different renowned international brands of high quality and amazing, long lasting fragrance.
✅FRAGRANCE: The LURVE Box sent to me had 7 amazingly unique and pleasing fragrances that completely suited the persona and style of a woman like me. You will find everything that suits your taste or style whether its, floral, woody, citrus, fruity, musky etc.
They write about the LURVE WOMEN, “She’s all things classic. You’d picture her walking down the Parisian streets, holding a dozen carnations. She personifies’lurve’. She’s special and you know that.”
AND yes, the fragrances match the description perfectly and hence, suited me so well, that i fell in love with each one of them.
The name of the fragrances in this box are as follows:
1️⃣CHIFFON EMPER; 2️⃣TRUE REFLECTIONS CHRIS ADAMS PARIS ; 3️⃣CREATION POUR FEMME; 4️⃣VIVECA MARYAJ; 5️⃣GOLD LOUIS CARDIN; 6️⃣LADY PRESIDENTE EMPER; 7️⃣SENSUAL LOMANI PARIS.
While each of the fragrance was beautiful and soothing my top favourites are 👌🏿SENSUAL BY LOMANI, my everyday perfume and 👍CHIFFON BY EMPER for evenings and 👏LADY PRESIDENTE for my work wear.
ALL, in all, i’m highly impressed and bowled over by this brand, its concept and product range.Specially,their initiative of bringing ‘affordability’ to the otherwise elite and occasionally used perfume.Their high quality perfumes are much better than cheap deodrants, have longevity and can now be easily incorporated into daily usage by one and all. Also, their ‘Patent Perfume Case’ is a unique and stylish concept and can be easily carried anywhere in style and used all day long.
HENCE, I’m highly recommending this brand to my readers, not only for their personal use but also for gifting purposes. NOT to forget the gift voucher of Rs.501/- that can be redeemed while purchasing an 100ml bottle perfume out of 42 more stylish and encapsulating products. Its a great deal.
Try these ones out and keep yourself and your lives beaming, fragrant and happy !!!
DO CHECK OUT THEIR INSTAGRAM PAGE AND THEIR WEBSITE, THE LINKS OF WHICH ARE GIVEN BELOW:
ARE you someone like me who is too lazy to follow any skin care regimen and being bestowed with a naturally healthy skin, have taken it too much for granted or, are you someone whose sensitive skin always creates new breakouts, reactions, allergies, acne and a truckload of worries or more so, are you someone who has seen a drastic change in their skin owing to the fast life, ageing, habits, pollution, hormones, diet or lifestyle. NO MATTER who we are out of the above mentioned or not mentioned; one thing I’m certain of that is, like me, many of you lovely people are CONFUSED and more so, SCARED.
Confused with a wide variety of skin care products and ranges flooding the market; more confused as most of the products are highly endorsed and advertised in the glossiest possible way and admittedly we fall tempted. But we all are often Scared too, atleast I am. Every time I think of buying something for my skin I feel the entire shopping experience becomes too taxing for me as I keep worrying whether the product I’m thinking of buying will suit my skin type, or if it will work well on my skin and hope that it doesn’t harm my skin and if its chemical free or not.
Nowadays, most of us are aware and are trying to bring in the concept of conscious beauty and natural, organic, sustainable fashion into our lifestyle. This is exactly what my blog is dedicated to pursue. I want to associate myself with such conscious brands and urge and bring out the message of same to my readers and viewers.
But most of the time the conscious ,natural organic brands are either not easily accessible to the masses and are mostly so high-end that they sure create deep holes in our pockets. And many other times we are often duped by duplicates or harmful cheap products that might be cheap on pockets but definitely not friendly to skin. Hence, I’m constantly on the lookout for some amazing natural brands that cater to all our woes.
So, My Friends be the scapegoat to the alluring markets no more!
Me as a blogger am here to review and give my honest views about such brands and products that would be flag bearers of conscious beauty and all natural, cruelty free products and organic, sustainable fashion.
Hence, I present to you a REVIEW again. Today, I bring to you my reviews on some selected products from the skincare range by a renowned brand named FUSCHIA BY VKARE.
The company very cordially sent me to review some of their products in two shipments of very cute little boxes with the samples of the products. TODAY I bring you the review of three out of all the products. I have tried these products for a long period of time and now I’m ready with my views on it.
👉The three products I’m reviewing today are:
1. ARABIAN JASMINE ANTI-AGING NIGHT CREAM.
2. ARJUN BARK SOAK
3. GREEN TEA CLARIFYING FACE AND BODY SCRUB
So, Let’s get talking dearies,
This conscious brand is fast making its way up in the market and into the hearts of its consumer clientele. Its fast becoming a must-have in the skin care kitty of all the people out there who want to use all natural, chemical free products.
👉The products by FUSCHIA BY VKARE BIOSCIENCES are:
.MADE IN INDIA
1. ARABIAN JASMINE ANTI-AGING NIGHT CREAM
This cream is hands down the best product I have used so far.Infused with the goodness of jasmine oil that acts as a hydrating,clarifying and healing agent. This cream also has a base of Kokum butter, olive oil, sweet almond oil along with skin’s most essential foods Aloe-Vera and Vitamin E. The ingredient list is the first step towards a trusting relationship with this product. It has a very herbal, oily and flowery fragrance to it, the one that we usually associate with many Ayurvedic products. This product claims to have no artificial tints and synthetic perfumes. I have religiously been using this product for past many days now as a night time skin care regime. A very small quantity is required for a single application. The product feels very light but creamy and richly oiled in my hands. After cleansing and washing my face off of any makeup or day’s residue and making it squeaky clean. I usually place a little bit of cream on my face with my fingers and work it up on the entire face in circular and upward motions. I massage the cream for about a minute or so and magically, it feels so light on my skin and oil-free as the oils are at once absorbed in the skin. Leaving you with a light scenty-feeling.
Night time is the repairing time for our skin and body and a good night cream can be a wonderful support system. This cream not only restores skin’s natural oils but claims to check on those premature wrinkles and fine lines. Well, I can definitely say that every morning I’m waking up to a very rejuvenated glowing, baby-soft, relaxed, supple and happy skin for sure ever since I’m using so. And hell yes!! finally I’m following a skin care routine and I’m following it too without any apprehensions of harmful effects.
Well, you can grab this beauty from their website (link in the end) that comes in a tin cap and glass jar, with 50 gms of product in it for an MRP of Rs 675/- currently on discount for Rs 600/-
RATINGS: PROS – CAN DEFINITELY GIVE IT A SHORT WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT SIDE EFFECTS
– Easy to use lid jar
– Well absorbed and easy results
– Worth its price
– Nice fragrance
– Well suited to ALL SKIN TYPES ( Best for my normal to dry skin)
CONS – Simple basic packing
– May not be too travel friendly
– Maybe excessive oily skin types might not like it.
– Not liked by people who are averse to perfumed products.
– Would like the brand to list more details about the product on the jar
Overall, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND this product, a thumbs up from my side.
Coming to the second product of today’s post.
2. ARJUN BARK SOAP
This product is a natural handmade soap with the goodness of Arjun Bark extract. While Arjun Bark extract is the key ingredient it is enriched with some other ingredients Olive Oil, Glycerine base, Castor oil and Coconut oil. It has a very woody and chocolatey translucent dark-brown colour and a mild fragrance. Its Listed ingredient sold me out to this one. Though, I’m not into using soaps and always go for body washes/milks instead but keeping true to the reviewers job, tried this one and to my amazement I actually liked it. I have always found the most delicate of the soaps to be hard on my skin, often rendering it dry and lifeless, hence, had shifted to washes long back. Coming back to the ingredients of this soap, Arjun Bark is known for its anti-bacterial properties and glycerine has always been a childhood go-to product to rescue from dryness and provide hydration. Olive, castor and coconut are already are already established aces in the skin care world, nourishing protecting our skin since ages.
It lathers easily and builds up well, hence, minimal product used. It comes in a colourful paper packaging. Each packing has a bar of 100 gms for an MRP Of Rs250/-
RATINGS: PROS – Maintains the moisture levels
– Removes impurities and makeup well
– Does not clog pores
– Lathers creamy without drying
– Chemical free, handmade alternative
CONS – Slightly Overpriced for its worth
A Good recommendation👍.
Moving onto the final product review of the day;
3. GREEN TEA CLARIFYING FACE AND BODY SCRUB
This product has also become a hot favourite of mine. I have a very soft, baby skin and because of the strong granules found in most of the scrubs, i used to shy away from scrubbing. But this one has a good balance in the texture. This scrub starts showing its results on your skin within few uses. Its chief ingredients being Green Tea, Aloe Vera, Olive Oil, Wheatgerm Oil. This formula is enriched with Catechins. Green tea has multiple skin benefits widely known, specially controlling acne, breakouts etc. Olive and Wheatgerm oil nourishes the skin keeping it supple and preventing premature ageing signs.
It Gently scrubs away excessive oil, dirt, sebum, harsh pollutants, leaving a fresh feel and a clear supple skin. It has a mild tea scent and not a very thick product. Apply to moist skin and massage in circular motion, then rinse off, pat dry.
It comes in a glass jar and a tin-lid with 100 gms product for an MRP Of Rs450/- on discount offer currently for Rs 400/-
RATINGS: PROS – Revitalizes and acts as a toner
– A stealer specially for oily skins and acne prone skin types
– Good for all skin types
– Anti ageing properties
– Value for money
– A little quantity suffices
CONS – Not travel friendly
– Simple basic packing
– More details to be listed on the pack
Its, a thumbs up👍 from my side to this product, definitely recommended.
So, With this my darling readers I come to an end of this blog post reviews.
I hope you will benefit from this review. IN CASE, you are looking to purchase these products and many more from the brand I’m linking the website right here.
you can also, visit there Instagram page by the name FUSCHIAVKARE.
DISCLAIMER: THE PACKAGING COULD BE CHANGED AS WELL,AS THEY PROVIDE DIFFERENT KINDS.
ALSO, I HAVE REVIEWED THE PRODUCTS ON THE BASIS OF MY KNOWLEDGE AND HOW THEY FARED ON MY SKIN TYPE.
Before signing out I urge you my dearies to embrace and imbibe conscious beauty, natural, organic and sustainable fashion into your life as much as you can, to incorporate and promote INDIAN PRODUCTS AND WEAVES WITH PRIDE into your lifestyle and to spend your hard earned money on sensible and chemical free products. I’m surely making an effort and hope you do so too.
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So, I’m back with a blog post!! This time its a collaboration for a Review!
The product under review is PEE-BUDDY by PeeBuddyIndia.
I chose this collaboration in keeping with my endeavour to bring in brands, products or topics that are organic in their essence, conscious in their branding, sustainable and revolutionary and contributory to humane side of the Mankind. This brand is all this and more.
👉PEE-BUDDY ‘GIRL’S BEST FRIEND FOR UNFRIENDLY TOILETS’!!
This very first tag line got me curious and I jumped on the opportunity to review it!
WELL! You only tell me which girl wouldn’t? And hence, the collaboration.
🤓Do you remember the school picnic days? the excursions? the college tours, the hiking, competition trips or matches trips?
AND now the weekend getaways, road tripping, travel plans, bus hopping, mall shopping?
Well that’s a truth when we say all these memories and events lead to so much fun and happiness but I’m talking about that one thing that’s common in all of these and is not a happy or fun memory !!?
How can we forget ladies?! The worst part and the first thing that comes to our mind, at least my mind for sure, is the thought of having to use a PUBLIC TOILET!
EWWW AND YIKES!! ARE MY FIRST REACTIONS TO THIS THOUGHT!
We women have been facing this grave issue of going out of our homes for work or leisure and dealing with unhygienic, dirty, smelly, stinky public toilets since ages!
Every time I have to go out for more than few hours, I cringe at the thought, “What if, I have to use a public loo? “All my growing up years, this thought has always bothered and disturbed my happy trips somewhere or the other. I have seen many of my friends and classmates often cancelling their outdoor plans and trips for fear of this. This fear lurks at the back of my mind, still whenever I plan something.
The unfriendly public toilets with a lack of hygiene, dirty, unkempt, uncleaned, unwashed and multiple-used not only make us sick but threaten of contracting various infections and specially UTIs !!
Many a times when the situation is exigent and I have been forced to try out a public loo; I have entered them with restraint but the next moment I have seen myself running out without using one! But holding onto a full bladder is equally unhealthy !
India as a country has developed manifolds and reached many milestones in the past century and I am a proud citizen. Many programs, schemes and movements have been initiated and are being followed for the upkeep of nation’s hygiene, health and public areas in general. But as a woman I still feel that we women have to compromise a lot in terms of hygiene and sanitation.
Why Pee Buddy??
I think all the females reading this would relate to this women-woe and must have faced this problem many times and this is my reason to review this product all the more. I wanted to try this product myself to see if it is actually the buddy it claims to be? and if yes, then I would really want to spread the word and sensitise and educate my women tribe to ‘Say no to dirty toilets’! ‘No to UTIs and ‘To lets talk hygiene!’.
This weekend I finally got a chance to try this product and review it on the weekend travel getaway! And to my wonder of wonders I thoroughly enjoyed my road trip without any moment of a worry at the back of my mind! All thanks to my new buddy PEE-BUDDY!
Already recommended to my friends and fellow travellers and was amazed to see their reactions and hear their personal incidents on this front!
So, let me brief you guys on the product and write my detailed review as well. This product PEE-BUDDY as the name suggests helps us girls to ease the process of peeing in public toilets. Be it anywhere from restaurants, malls, hospitals to road, rail, airport travels.
👉Its INDIA’S first ‘FEMALE URINATION DEVICE’!
That gives females the FREEDOM TO STAND UP AND PEE in advent of dirty, unfriendly toilets.
Talking of Freedom, this device is no less than revolutionary movement that gives us women freedom from a major women woe and is a step towards safe, hygienic world for women.
So, this device basically comes in a biodegradable envelope that contains a one time usage funnel/ strip, which is made of a coated waterproof paper that can easily be disposed off in dustbin after usage. M.R.P of single funnel is 💰Rs.30/- only.
Its an easy to carry everywhere, hassle free device which can be opened and easily placed and then thrown after usage. The directions to use are clearly depicted on the envelope.
Trust me ladies’ I found this device an answer to my problems, especially that of contracting a UTI! It is also a boon to the ladies with joint pain, arthritis or patients and even pregnant ladies as it allows us to stand and pee without any worry.
Its a very positive review from my side. I’m going to stock these right up and I’m sure you will also give this device a try and definitely bring it into your travel lifestyle.
As, its high time we should say No to unhygienic toilets! Why should we suffer when the saviour PEE-BUDDY is here. So, lets make it a companion for life and travel in comfort, style and hygiene all the time.
ALSO, word for all my 🤷♂️GENTLEMEN readers, if you chance upon my blog post then do read this with interest and help and inspire the women in your life to adopt and adapt this product in their lives for better and easy hygiene and comfort .
FOR ALL YOU LADIES LOOKING TO BUY THESE. THE LINK IS GIVEN HERE:
I’m back with my second blog post. This post is a celebration of the soul of Womanhood and so is the fashion and styling that I have woven into this post. For me a Soul is WHITE… Pure, Serene and Angelic. and my soul has something to say to you.
Let yourself free for some moments in your life. STOP! Stop doing whatever important work that you are doing. Loosen Up! Take a break. BREATHE! Breathe deep. Shun away all the chores, world’s burdens, duties and responsibilities and all the turmoils and chaos.
Just few moments for yourself. Only few… I promise!
Stand in front of the mirror. Devote a minute. No, don’t hurry, stay there for a while please.
When was the last time you actually took time out to gaze into your reflection for longer than a few seconds? I’m not talking about mechanically getting ready for work; or to hurriedly dress up before entering the kitchen or to put on make-up for an obligatory party. No! What I meant was when did you spare sometime out; out of love for yourself or to admire your beauty at leisure, to see those features; those worldly wise eyes; that crooked smile, that impish nose; those new found wrinkles and that grey speck in the hair.
Come let’s admire together… God’s Strongest and most magical creation.
Keep looking into the mirror and connect with your reflection. Admire her beauty, give her a well-deserved grin. Feel you are passing through the epidermal layers of your body and reach out to the Goddess that resides within.
She is residing inside of you. Crammed-up & locked in some lonely, deep, dark dungeon of an ancient Haveli in your heart, that was once lit with laughter of a young, bratty, carefree little girl. Today, no-one visits her. She is buried under the pile of worldly worries, duties & responsibilities that crowds your head-space today.
She is covered in the black residual angst of the busy, burdened heart but her fairy duststill sparkles from places beneath the soot.
She is unmistakably sad !!!
Sad, not because she is wronged or lacks the will to stand out or has seen only dark times. She is sad because she is forgotten! She is sad because that little girl who was once her friend has not visited her since long. That girl has grown up to be a Woman and has a world of her own.
In the fight to reach afar; to meet her responsibilities and never ending duties; in the race to be what is expected out of her and keeping everyone happy. She has no time for the Goddess within her. Slowly the goddess is dying, she’s calling out… calling out to, her only friend.
So have you looked into the mirror enough? Keep looking till the time you find that Girl-Woman.
Now that you have found both, understand they both reside inside you. Both are your reflections. All that, the Goddess inside you needs is a little of your time and love. She is the one who instills the aura in your persona and uniqueness in your being. Do not forget! She has been there all along; when you got scared at that extempore competition but still won; when you were banned to dance but you danced your heart out nevertheless; when you dreamily gave that speech on your farewell and talked about your dreams and desires, some still unfulfilled; when the chubby you joined the football team and everyone laughed. She was there when you first wore a saree which looked more like a lungi and even when you cooked your first half-burnt meal.
She is the one, the Goddess in you, the magic in you, who never lets you back down. She is the one who gave you that wand and the invisible crown and fairy dust in your hand. You went on to become the best possible self of you, a self you loved, a self who has perfected the art of wearing a saree; cooking a perfect meal and giving the best speeches ever.
Today, you are adept at all the worldly things and more. Yet the Goddess cries.
She cries for those days when you used to revel in your own self, never bothered about what anyone said or criticised. She yearns for those leisurely, fun-filled days when you used to do as you pleased; picked up what you fancied; said what you felt; with absolutely no care about what the world said and expected out of you.
She wants your love, your admiration, your adulation. She wants you to cut yourself some slack. She wants you to judge yourself a little less. She wants you to flaunt your self just the way you are. Whatever Shape, whatever Size, whatever Age, whatever Colour, whatever Height. She wants you not to constantly nudge & torture yourself into the race of being the best mother, best wife, best daughter, best sister. She wants you to rid yourself from the worry of these called tags of ‘a working selfish woman’ or an aimless ‘identity ridden homemaker’. More so, of being called a ‘man -eater widow’; ‘a lusty cougar’ or a ‘gold-digger’.
She wants you not to succumb to ever changing worldly beauty standards and feel a mis-fit in the world where everyone is judged; some called ‘blonde bimbettes’ or ‘sexy brunettes’; ‘size zeroes’ and ‘fat hoes’.To not follow fashion fads; or trends blindly; to not go by rules someone else made;to not order a pizza if you preferred dal- chawal; to not be a party animal out of obligation; to not judge or bitch about fellow sisters to be a part of any mighty social group; to not put on makeup if that’s not your style.
Rather, say what you feel; eat what you please; wear what you fancy; do what your heart tells you not your age, people or their social status.
She wants you to revel in the divinity of your Womanhood; to keep the Goddess alive. Shower her sparkly dust to everything you touch. She wants you to let the little girl live inside of the Woman you are now. To take pride in your likes & dislikes. To take time out for your own self and the little joys of life even if its for a few moments in a day.Whether its reading or music; laughing with friends over a cup of tea; shopping or dancing in the rain; staying in your pyjamas and torn- tees; whatever that makes your inner Goddess happy and thriving.
Coming to the outfit and styling part of the blog, ITS BEEN STYLED FOR ALL THE GODDESSES OUT THERE.
The dress i picked up for this post’s shoot is a basic cream-white, soft, crinkled woven cotton skater dress; it has a delicate lace detailing, bell-sleeves and cold shoulder. Its from the brand STALK BUY LOVE and is named Alabaster dress.
This outfit was love at first sight; even though i had pledged not to go for anymore whites; couldn’t resist! Guilty as charged! I have a thing for whites; i feel a little more of myself wearing it. This dress is comfortable and easy breezy and brings out the inner GODDESS in me; happy, dancing and confident in her skin. As much as this outfit goes by what’s trending, in terms of sleeves and cuts; i went in for this one because of the fabric, silhouette and colour. My perfect go-to outfit for summers, monsoons and fall.
My LWD-little white dress has become a wardrobe essential as it can be used and styled in multiple ways; It can be a perfect comfy travel outfit or can be worn for a brunch or an evening party. It can be highlighted with accessories and you’ll be good to go for an event.
For the first look i have teamed the outfit with just a white-floral tiara; for that angelic look; in dedication to today’s topic.
For the second look i have paired the dress with a quirky shirt and a broad tanned belt at the waist and tanned comfy pom-pom tie-up flats; perfect for travel; coffee date with friends; shopping or hopping places; a tanned travel bag is used to highlight the look at places.
The third look that i have styled is by using a floral, printed pure-chiffon dupatta with the dress, tied around the waist with a tanned belt and some black bangles just to add to the look and you are good to hop from an airport look to a party look!! (the outfit is too comfy to change, better style it up a notch and attend the party!)
DRESS : Stalk Buy Love #babesofsbl
SHIRT : Sarnam Quirk Store, Bangalore
DUPATTA : My Jammu Wardrobe
BELT : Colaba, Causeway
SANDALS : Westside Stores
BAG : Pelle / www.pelle.in
TIARA : Monica Store, Jammu
BANGLES : Colaba
💄MAKE UP DEETS :
Nude natural look using Maybelline NewYork, The Nudes Eye Shadow Pallete.
BASE: L’Oreal True Match BB Cream & Concealor; Lakme Highlighter & Revlon Photo ready Compact
MASCARA: Diana of London
Eyebrow Pencil: Diana of London
💋On the Lips: Amway Coffee Shade
So, that’s a wrap on this blog post!
Hope, you liked what i created and the write up as well!
Do 🗣comment and ✍🏿write about your feelings on this one.
I’m waiting to read your valuable suggestions.
My first blog post ! I have all the feelings juxtaposed inside of me. I’m a nervous wreck but super happy and hopeful as this feels like my calling! I thought and thought time and again, tore many a pages from my diary. What should I write about in my first blog? Would it be impressive enough? Am I doing justice to the shoots? I’m already joining the band wagon pretty late! Will today’s learned readers have time & love for my work in their busy lives? In today’s fleeting world, will I have few loyal critics. All this was messing my head ,so I closed the diary, shut down the computer & went out for a stroll to clear my head. A breath of fresh air did real good to me. A sense of calm achieved, I realised that the first thing that brought me to setup my own blog was to have a place where I can be unapologetically me. I wanted to share my persona in the truest sense with the like-minded people. Then why these doubts? They have no place in mind.
So, here I am, pretty confident & transparent with my first fashion blog post. I bring to you what comes easily to me.
My momma has been the benchmark I always wanted to achieve. I’m her shadow and that’s who I want to be. So, the first garment I wanted to style on my blog
1. had to be something from my momma & my mommyland,
2. had to be a piece with Indian hand-work,
3. had to tell a story,
4. had to be my most favourite one,
5. had to be a style that reflected my persona.
So, I chose a Saree; my quintessential go-to traditional outfit forever. This one is a Kashmiri Pure Chinon fabric, a must-have in all wardrobes and trousseau’s of J&K women. A bottle green six yards of sheer elegance with mukaish hand-work (fardi, badla work of shiny dots on the fabric, though nawabi, lucknowi art form but zealously pursued in J&K), perfect for this season, neither too heavy nor too casual.
Currently my favourite and most prized possession, I had thrown a huge tantrum back then when momma gave me the news that she had given a Saree for dyeing and hand-work and that one day it would be a part of my wedding trousseau. I don’t know what got over me and I started finding faults with the choice of colour, work and the fact that if it was for me, then, I should have been the one to choose. To my surprise, when the final product arrived in my momma’s hand, and she unveiled it, I was AMAZED!! It was the perfect shade of green I liked, perfect amount of work and an easy-breezy light weight fabric. Nevertheless, I had to maintain my annoyed-daughter-face, and still looked for excuses to not approve of the Saree. Why do you think I was behaving the way I Was?
I tried to hurt my momma’s emotions that day of which I repent till date. I thought many a times then, that why I behaved the way I behaved. A teenage girl wouldn’t understand the complexities of her own growing self but today, that girl is a woman; her reflections more clearer, her emotions more sorted. Today I understand that the fact that, the word wedding trousseau triggered many unknown emotions inside me that day. The first one being, my momma is going to give me away one day. Rest were all excuses.
So folks, I have styled this important piece of my life in two ways.
First, I have styled this Saree with a plain magenta raw silk choli/crop-top; with an intention to make the look not so heavy and to let the Saree do all the talking. I embellished this look with silver metallic jewellery; a chunky peacock neck-piece, and lotus jhumkis. A smokey blackish-green eye makeup and pink lips; and let my hair the most natural way I keep. Also, for the cover shoot of my blog i styled this same look with a gorgeous pink and white double-shade stole of kasmiri aari work from my collection.
My second look comprises of the same Saree paired with a very quirky, trendy, urban white off-shoulders, bell-sleeved top with my most favourite mangoes print on it (mango being the king flavour of the season).
I embellished this bold look with a gorgeous metallic belt (my favourite accessory in my wardrobe) and continued to team it with the lotus jhumkis.I tied my hair in a basic bun and a satin clutch sling to complete the look.
Magenta Raw Silk Crop Top/Choli : Kainaat Studios Jaipur
Mango Print Off Shoulders : Myntra
Saree : My Personal Wardrobe Collection
Footwear : Catwalk
Jewellery : Silver Palace Mumbai
Please drop your comments and suggestions about my post and the styling. It would mean a lot. Let me know if you would like to read more such stories on my blog.
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